ANGER & DISTANCE

You may want to ask, what's the correlation?

Yes, they are two different situations but highly connected to one another. 

You still want to ask how?

Ok so, we often experience distance in relationships and most of the time if not from distance itself, it stems from situations where we loose control with one another.

Alright let's jump into it, I was reading somewhere about a professor speaking with his students and he asked "why do we shout when angry?"

I mean why do we yell when upset? 

Someone stood up and said "we shout because we loose our calm". 

The  professor said Ok" but why shout when the person you are shouting at is right beside you?" 

Then he finally explained to his students.

"If two people are angry at each other, their hearts psychologically distance themselves from each other so to cover that distance,people engage in a shouting match to hear each other or cover the distance",

Sounds logical?

Then he proceeded to explain further  by also asking.

"What happens when two people fall in love"?

They don't shout at each other but interact softly"

 Why? 

He asked and explained to them that "its because the lovers are psychologically knitted together because the distance between them is shorter" 

Sounds good to you? 

He goes further "when they love themselves even more they don't even need to speak, they just whisper and even get closer to one another and as the love grows deeper they need not whisper, they can just look at one another and get messages across"

Sounds interesting? 

Sometimes we want to get a message across, but we do so by shouting at the receiver of the message not knowing that the way we convey messages really matters than the message itself

 Why? 

It's because, the receiver might loose the essence of such important aspect of the message because ordinarily its supposed to be responsive but when you shout,you haven't communicated anything,you have just denied the receiver of such message because communication is a two-way thing. 

When you shout,you have already told the receiver his/her response doesn't matter,so where is the mutual respect we profess for one another?

I have made it a point to always communicate and not shout even when I'm angry and who doesn't get angry by the way? 

But you can get your anger under control by speaking and communicating your thoughts in a calm manner and you will discover that the receiver will give you a feedback instead of having a shouting match.

Things happen, situations gets bad, but shouting will make it worse off because  bruising the other person's ego will yield no good results in trying to find solution to an already tense situation  or relationship. 

So, know this whenever you shout at someone,you are creating a distance and distances are created in inches then feet then barrier that develops into a barricade.

ANGER & DISTANCE 

You may want to ask, what's the correlation?

Yes, they are two different situations but highly connected to one another. 

You still want to ask how?

Ok so, we often experience distance in relationships and most of the time if not from distance itself, it stems from situations where we loose control with one another.

Alright let's jump into it, I was reading somewhere about a professor speaking with his students and he asked "why do we shout when angry?"

I mean why do we yell when upset? 

Someone stood up and said "we shout because we loose our calm". 

The  professor said Ok" but why shout when the person you are shouting at is right beside you?" 

Then he finally explained to his students.

"If two people are angry at each other, their hearts psychologically distance themselves from each other so to cover that distance,people engage in a shouting match to hear each other or cover the distance",

Sounds logical?

Then he proceeded to explain further  by also asking.

"What happens when two people fall in love"?

They don't shout at each other but interact softly"

 Why? 

He asked and explained to them that "its because the lovers are psychologically knitted together because the distance between them is shorter" 

Sounds good to you? 

He goes further "when they love themselves even more they don't even need to speak, they just whisper and even get closer to one another and as the love grows deeper they need not whisper, they can just look at one another and get messages across"

Sounds interesting? 

Sometimes we want to get a message across, but we do so by shouting at the receiver of the message not knowing that the way we convey messages really matters than the message itself

 Why? 

It's because, the receiver might loose the essence of such important aspect of the message because ordinarily its supposed to be responsive but when you shout,you haven't communicated anything,you have just denied the receiver of such message because communication is a two-way thing. 

When you shout,you have already told the receiver his/her response doesn't matter,so where is the mutual respect we profess for one another?

I have made it a point to always communicate and not shout even when I'm angry and who doesn't get angry by the way? 

But you can get your anger under control by speaking and communicating your thoughts in a calm manner and you will discover that the receiver will give you a feedback instead of having a shouting match.

Things happen, situations gets bad, but shouting will make it worse off because  bruising the other person's ego will yield no good results in trying to find solution to an already tense situation  or relationship. 

So, know this whenever you shout at someone,you are creating a distance and distances are created in inches then feet then barrier that develops into a barricade.

Staying calm under a tense situation yields great results and good for your mental well being. 

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